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SHARING WITH US
If you would like to ask Mike a question about consent, respect, healthy
relationships, and/or sexual assault, this is your place to do so. Also
feel free to share your thoughts on Mike's "Can I Kiss You?"
presentation by scrolling down this page or by clicking here.
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QUESTION OF THE
WEEK FROM A STUDENT
there's this situation that happened and i dont know if its
cosidered rape or not. we'll just put this persons name as jane.
ok. so jane was with her friend in a hotel room and her and her
friend got DRUNK, but she got more wasted then her friend.
jane was puking in the bathroom, so then jane decided to go lay down
cause she was just not feeling right. then two guy friends of janes
friend came. there is jane laying on the bed cause she doesnt
even know whats goin on then one of the guys went in the bed with
jane. time passed and this guy, we'll say joe, starts to be on top
of jane and starts to do things. jane had said no as shes still
GONE, not knowing whats goin on. she remembered him trying to have
sex with her but she was pushing him away and said no. they were
making out and more time passed. then she wakes up in the morning
and joe smiles and laughs while he is naked in the bed with jane and
her clothes. jane smiles and laughs too. she doesnt know if he
had sex with her or not, but she does remember saying no a couple of
times. now my question is that, was jane rapped by joe? thanks
ANSWER
One "No" is more than enough. When a
person says, "No" to sexual contact and the other person continues sexually
touching the person who said, "No" (in this case, Jane was the person saying
"No"). then the person sexually touching Jane is committing sexual assault.
If Jane was intoxicated and not of sound mind (as you have described), Jane
cannot give consent. Consequently, the alcohol situation you have
described would also be grounds for a sexual assault in most states. Plus,
if Jane is a minor, age laws could apply to the situation you have described
(state laws vary across the country).
The best thing you can do to help Jane is to talk with her about calling a local
rape crisis center. You can find your local rape crisis center by visiting
your state coalition against sexual assault's website (click
here to find) and by calling R.A.I.N.N. (Rape,
Abuse, and Incest National Network) at (800) 656-HOPE. Your local rape
crisis center and RAINN will keep any and all calls completely confidential.
They are fantastic resources for Jane!!
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reaction to what you were saying about that. in the begining of you
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got to that part there really was no laugh or any jokes or anything. it was
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