Commitment to Care^RM and Pledge to Protect^RM

Commitment to Care^RM is a special agreement in which parents and their children agree to "do their best" to create an understanding of respect and safety in all situations for dating, "hooking up" (from being on a date to being at a party), or any forms of sexual contact with or from another person.  Parents agree that they will pickup their child at any point in which the child is not comfortable.  The child agrees that they will talk to their date about "expectations and standards" that they expect to be upheld in all dating situations.

One of the major concerns for children who are sexually assaulted is that they cannot tell their parents because they fear the reaction their parents will have.  This agreement brings the parents and the child together to help the child understand that the parents WANT to help and WANT to be there for him/her.   While most parents assume their children know the parents want to help, the child often fears their parents judgment, disappointment, and or the emotional pain their parents will experience in discovering what has happened to him.  In addition, children frequently fear the physical retaliation their parents may take upon the perpetrator.  In Commitment to Care^RM, parents agree not to take any physical retaliation and agree to move forward in the healthiest manner possible.

Parents are often concerned that their children won't come to them during a time of need and/or trauma.  This agreement helps bring both the parents and the children together to create a "safe" space.  The agreement helps build and solidify a special bond between parents and their children -- of love, compassion, and understanding.  The agreement is targeted to be available on this website by the end of August.  If you, your school, or your organization would like to be notified when Commitment to Care^RM becomes available, please fill out the form at the bottom of this page.

**Silence is a sexual predator's tool.  The more a survivor's assault is kept quiet, the greater the trauma is likely to effect him/her throughout his/her life.  The more assaults which are kept quiet, the more likely predators continue hurting children and adults.  Predators can be anyone -- from the nicest kid at school to a clergy member to a family member to a partner.

Pledge to Protect^RM is a powerful agreement students sign to pledge that they will do their best to protect their family, friends and peers in potentially dangerous moments concerning alcohol, drugs, and sexual assault. The agreement’s wording is continually being edited by a team of students and educators working in conjunction with Mike Domitrz and The Date Safe Project.  To begin utilizing the Pledge to Protect^RM, click here.
 

To be notified when Commitment to Care^RM becomes available, fill out the below information: